Have you been setting new boundaries? That’s great, but there’s something you need to know. You need to be aware of overshooting your new boundaries.

Firstly, well done. It’s not always easy to implement new rules which protect your time, energy and peace. When we do the difficult work of deepening self-awareness and building self-belief, we uncover patterns and behaviours that may have served us well in the past, but now drain us. Noticing when these patterns or behaviours are playing out is the first step. The next challenge is to intervene, to pause and avoid those instinctive responses from kicking in. And then we might make a promise to ourselves, or set a boundary, to give us a new playbook to guide our responses. Setting boundaries can feel good, and it can free up precious time and energy. But it can also feel uncomfortable too - this is the ‘messy middle’. And sometimes we can overshoot our boundary - going too far and creating unintended consequences - a sort of ‘push me, pull me’ kind of effect.

Taking better care of your energy isn’t just about sleeping well, recharging the batteries on the weekend, and going for a run. For deep transformation, you’ve got to really tackle the way you spend your energy when you’re at work. I’ve been using the GC Index profiling tool with clients and we’ve been exploring what work naturally energises and depletes them, and considering what implications this has for the work they do and the way they spend their days. I’m challenging my clients to consider their energy consumption on a much deeper level. 

Sometimes our lives can become so busy, so full on, that we can become really disconnected from our own bodies. But if we can learn to tune in more closely, and pay attention to what our bodies are telling us, we can get the clues we need to transform our lives. In this article I’ll share what’s helped me, and what helps my clients to tune into what their bodies are telling them. 

I’ll share the three game changing lessons I’ve learned about burnout, habits, courage and what I say to my coaching clients about how you can transform your life for the better in the space of just one year.